I am about as conflict-averse a person as you'll ever meet. Which is probably why my first marriage lasted as long as it did - he always was "right" because voicing my opinion was too exhausting and, as I learned over time, not worth the fight.
However, the ex has brought a fight to my feet and it's clear he doesn't like that I'm not just caving in. But, when he brings my boys into it, I will fight like a Mama Lion.
That said, this whole standing-up-for-myself is new territory, it's exhausting and takes too much mental energy. People who go looking for fights are sick. Thank goodness that the Mr. is so supportive. I'll provide updates on this whole sad/sick saga, but for now, just know that I'm still here, but engaged in battle.
In other news: still living and loving The Plan -- I've kept the weight off for weeks now. Anytime I slip, I just revert back to a "proven" menu. Also, discovered Gobo root at a local Asian market:
Gobo, or burdock, root is traditionally valued for its antibacterial, anti-inflammatory, and antioxidant properties. It is highly esteemed as a blood detoxifier, a diuretic, and a topical remedy for maladies of the skin, including psoriasis and acne.
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Ciao for now and choose happy in 2012.
I tried to Google the Bible verse that says something to this affect: you can't reason with ignorance. Maybe your ex is an unhappy man and he found you to be the perfect target. Block his thoughts and continue on the path of writing that incredible book.
ReplyDeleteAnd I need to join you in loosing weight. Take care.